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Tools for female-led relationships to thrive — better communication, lighter mental load, and a shared place for the agreements you live by.
Pick the tools that fit your relationship
The agreements you live by. Adopt from the library or write your own; either of you can flag a violation.
A shared, honest record of broken rules and missed chores or tasks, until they’re resolved.
Recurring chores on a rhythm — daily, weekly (pick a day), or monthly. Missed periods become offenses.
One-off tasks with deadlines. Missing one becomes an offense.
Check in on six spectrums — energy, time, attention, arousal, kinkiness, and health.
The Dom assigns consequences for offenses — or at will. Completing one clears the offenses it covers.
Write down the wonderful things your partner does. Small thank-yous, kept forever.
Ask each other anything. Answers stay hidden until you’ve both answered — then both reveal.
A shared journal: each of you writes, both of you read.
Things he gets to enjoy — video games, social media, a night out. She grants and revokes them.
Beat decision paralysis: one lays out the options, the other picks. Dinner, movie, whatever.
The things he loves. She grants them whenever she likes. (Points coming later.)
His releases, every one logged and dated — authorized or not. Unauthorized ones become offenses.
Every one of hers is worth celebrating — logged, counted, and admired.
Personal habits with a target — 3× a week at the gym, a daily page of reading. Missing the target counts.
Daily focus blocks by project — either of you can assign them; he runs the timer and beats the deadline. Shortfalls count.
Things you might do together — either of you adds one, then you each set your own interest and ideal frequency and see the other’s.
Built for couples who choose structure together. Private by design — your relationship's data is visible to the two of you and no one else.